When you don’t got it

Updated: Aug 28, 2019

Main Verse “Then Deborah said to Barak, “Go! This is the day the Lord has given Sisera into your hands. Has not the Lord gone ahead of you?” So Barak went down Mount Tabor, with ten thousand men following him.”‭‭Judges‬ ‭4:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

As I scroll through my social media feeds, I am quickly captivated by all the “girl power-girl you got this- be a girl boss” messages. And as life hits with challenges, I quickly go back to those messages and speak them into my life. As of now, life can be challenging, uncomfortable at times, but pretty manageable.  In my current season, these “you got this” messages are pretty encouraging. 

But what about the times when I don’t “got this”?  There were times in my life when my husband and I didn’t know what would happen next.  Like the time we were both out of a job with a two year old and a newborn. Or the time when we had to relocate to a new town eight hours away from family and what was familiar.  Or the time when our rental lease was up and we couldn’t find another place to rent. Or maybe the time when it seemed like all my sanity was lost in tears as I tried to hold it together for my kids but didn’t know what the future held.

As I was asking myself these questions, I felt a whisper “Be the girl that reminds her friend, God’s got you”. 

So many times, I have encouraged others with a “you got this girl”. What I’m realizing more and more, is that this message points to her strength and that strength can only go so far. When life is out of their control, I now want to remind her of God’s strength.

Deborah, a prophetess in Judges did the same thing. In Judges 4, God told Deborah to command Barack to attack Sisera.  Barak would only do it if Deborah went with him. She agreed to go, but remained on the sidelines. She did not fight his battle for him, but encouraged him to go fight and reminded him that God has already gone ahead of him.

As I look back on my life, I can now see how God strategically moved everything into place, but during those tumultuous, anxiety-ridden times all I saw was a rock and a hard place.  I heard a lot of “everything happens for a reason” and “girl, you got this”. These honestly did nothing other than make me wish it was over...faster. We did receive help when we needed it, but the feeling of uneasiness became all to familiar.  No one could fight this fight for us, we would have to go through it. What I so desperately needed to hear then, “God has got you, nothing can take you from His plan for you. Yes, it is hard. Yes it’s horrible right now. BUT, God…”

Let’s be the girl to acknowledge our friend’s struggle, to be there when needed, but to ultimately point them back to the God who has gone ahead of them.

Post written by: Samantha DeLeon 

Samantha has grown up going to church, but didn't encounter Jesus until her mid-thirties.  Jesus met her on a road of anxiety and over commitment, turning her faith from a spectator sport to a team player on the field.  Samantha's mission is to encourage women like herself, "the overachiever-need to help everyone-over committed-never full" life into the abundant life Christ promises and trust Him through life's ups and downs.  Samantha is a California native, married to her high school sweetheart and they have 3 school-aged children