Updated: Jul 24, 2019
Main Truth - “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV
My primary job as a parent is not to make my children happy. My primary job as a parent is to train up my children and prepare them for life. The choices I give them will not always make them happy. In fact, my battles with them tend to lie between their happy feelings and my wise choices for them.
I always tell them, “you don’t have to like the choice I give you, but your attitude toward it will make a difference. If you choose to be indignant then your actions after will follow that choice...which could lead to consequences. But if you choose joy, your actions will stem from that choice. It’s your choice.”
Or if all else fails, I will say, “Just trust me, I know better.”
I’m sure you can relate. Children often want things quick, easy, delicious and fully loaded with things not meant to honor their little bodies. The choices I give them usually include things to do like brush their teeth, make wise choices for food and drinks that will help their bodies not hinder it and my choices for them usually require waiting.
That’s exactly how God sees us and the directions He has for us. Some (this was me too!) think God is a little too strict and old school when it comes to things that they think will make them happy. But just like my children cannot understand the reasoning behind why I make them do certain things, eat certain things and avoid or closely monitor unhealthy things and activities, we humans cannot always understand why God wants things done a certain way.
In this, we rely on trusting His wisdom. This trust builds faith and peace within our hearts.
As with my children, the more time I spend with my Father, the more I will know what He wants from me. And as I tell my children, their attitude toward what choices I’ve given them, whether they like it or not, will make a huge difference. Choosing joy and seeking the wisdom behind godly choices will produce fruit that will benefit not only ourselves but those around us.
And like my children, who deep down rest in the fact that mom’s got it, we can rest in the divine peace that God has got it and trust Him...even when we don’t like it initially.
Post written by: Samantha DeLeon
Samantha has grown up going to church, but didn't encounter Jesus until her mid-thirties. Jesus met her on a road of anxiety and over commitment, turning her faith from a spectator sport to a team player on the field. Samantha's mission is to encourage women like herself, "the overachiever-need to help everyone-over committed-never full" life into the abundant life Christ promises and trust Him through life's ups and downs. Samantha is a California native, married to her high school sweetheart and they have 3 school-aged children.