Don’t Go It Alone

Updated: Sep 17, 2020

Main Truth: If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.” (1 Corinthians 12:26)

Sisters In The Spirit, Mental Health, Wellness

Paul wrote this verse in a letter to the church of Corinth, teaching unity and relationship among the believers in Christ. The Bible reveals a consistent theme of how we all need one another, as part of a body, where we are essential, and others are essential to us.

God did not bring us into His family to leave us in our wandering. I recognize, in difficult times, going into “survival mode” feels like the safest place. But in those places of hiding, we can miss out on the sage advice from women who have lived through similar situations. The Christian life intends to be one of continuous growth, and I believe the days we are experiencing now may be the toughest for some with pains like none other. Yet, we are not alone.

Finding Wisdom

Most of what we do we’ve learned from someone else. These days YouTube is often the go-to for everything under the sun. Can you believe the top 25 female YouTubers have over 252 million subscribers in total?! These numbers prove the immense desire for wisdom, experience, and support. The Bible agrees, “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding” (Proverbs 3:13).   But instead of online resources as our default go-to,  let’s consider the abundance of Christian women who offer nurturing friendships with Godly wisdom, trust, and compassion. In my opinion, multigenerational friendships are second to none. When a woman has experienced suffering herself and has embraced it with hope and a future, it is priceless. What better way to be encouraged, supported, and loved but by another woman who has “been there.”  The benefits of Godly wisdom are never-ending.

Where are These Trusted Women?

Pray for Jesus to show you the women He has already placed in your life, or soon will. At a retreat years ago, I sat next to an older woman I barely knew but marveled at her prayer life. She was a gifted teacher and spoke beautiful Godly wisdom to women. I wanted to pray like her. Near the end of our retreat weekend, I mustered enough courage to ask her if she would read through a Bible study with me, and she was delighted to do so. For several weeks we met and grew from our time together. In her mentoring, she shared experiences of suffering, questioning, and healing. 

Attending women’s Bible studies often reaps the benefits of deep friendship across generations. This blog, Sisters in the Spirit, is supported by a group of women who are passionate about mentoring others by sharing their own stories of restoration. Consider asking a friend or church leader if she knows someone who could bring blessings into your life. I’ve had mothers, aunts, sisters, and co-workers ask if I could mentor their younger loved ones, and it has been incredibly sweet to do so. I am so glad they asked!

What if Someone Asks Me?

When we live out our faith in Jesus, we live for God’s glory. We can be confident He will lead us and trust He will be present in every relationship as we acknowledge Him as the Source of our wisdom. Sometimes these special friendships will present themselves in surprising ways. When we recognize Jesus gives us the strength and gifts we need, we can open our hearts to another in God’s perfect plan. 

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentlenesses, self-control; against such things, there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23

I’ll end with a loving challenge. Please pray for God to bring a woman to mind who needs your support or a woman who can uplift and encourage you during this time. Also, consider attending our Cultivate Identity online women’s conference on October 17th. If your heart is willing, I can guarantee God will bring wisdom through our speakers. Better yet, gather with a friend or as a group and cultivate your relationship with Jesus and one another.  To learn more

Post written by Tanya Flores

Tanya Flores enjoys mentoring young women and is eternally grateful for the many trusted companions in her own life. She currently serves as Director of Reproductive Grief Care and Education at Sierra Pregnancy and Health and is a certified Lead Instructor with Life Perspectives.  Tanya’s passion for ministering to women has also included her serving as a director of women’s ministry and speaking at various conferences, retreats, and seminars. Tanya is presently in the process of obtaining certification through the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC) and The Institute for Biblical Counseling & Discipleship (IBCD).